In life, the majority of people normally in some way experienced the time when someone misunderstood one’s intentions or information on their actions and leads to major attitude differences as a consequence. I’m not an exception either.
In my earlier childhood, I had once got in trouble because of teacher misunderstanding my facial expressions. The teacher was giving me a command to follow while I was giving him a little smile which he became more aggressive after that. The command was to copy down all the school rules on paper as I disrupted the class to answer questions for my classmates, which I felt very innocent about it. I was giving the teacher a little smile since I feel it very innocent about it and hope to be asked about the reasons for it, but the teacher, however, misunderstood it.
He assumed that I was being disrespectful to an adult as I smile back while he was talking, and even asked a faculty from the school to verify the fact that in Chinese culture student should not be smiling when teachers are speaking in a serious tone. In the end, I still didn’t get the chance to express my thoughts or even the intention of that innocent smile, which after that I had clearly remembered the importance of making the right expression in order to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding from people. Misunderstanding tends to make enormous differences in attitude by misinterpreting one’s intentions.
Do You Smile Too Much? by Minda Zetlin via inc.com / CC BY-NC-SA
The power of misunderstanding can be also shown in the story The Immortal Life Of Henrietta Lacks. David Lacks misunderstood the intention of John Hopkins and signed the autopsy permission form of Henrietta Lacks.
“The doctors asked again about the autopsy. They said they wanted to run tests that might help his children someday.”(90)
David’s misunderstanding and the influence from John Hopkins had hugely impact on the further investigation of Henrietta’s body and most importantly public the discovery of Hela cells which the Lacks family turns out being dissatisfied about that.
Moreover, in the story, Skloot was on the trip with Deborah attempting to find the mysterious sickness of the members of the Lacks family. The first vivid conflict became to show up as Deborah misunderstood about the smile from Skloot’s facial expression.
“I smiled. Not because I thought it was funny, but because I thought it was sweet that she was protective of her sister”(283)
“You’re lying!” Who are you working for?”(283)
Deborah misunderstood Skloot’s smile and suspect that she was working for John Hopkins which in another way see her as a betrayer. However, this conflict as Deborah was aiming to test the limit of Skloot temper.
Thunder fans burn Kevin Durant’s jersey by Jacob DeLaughter via foxsport.com /
Similar cases also happened in today’s sports world. People tend to misunderstand the players that have been traded to another team. They turn from love to hate instantly. They tend to forget players’ former contributions to the team and criticized their leaving as a betrayal. However, as some people said, “It is still a business.”
Citation:
- Skloot, Rebecca. The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks. Broadway Books, 2010.